The Beauty of Being Wretched

Growing up I had no contact with cancer. My first exposure to its grim realities was a movie in the early 80s. John Hurt played the role of a man who was often reduced to vomiting in his sink. It shook me up and I always felt deep sympathy for anyone diagnosed. Over the decades […]

Lance Armstrong – You Really Let Us Down

I’m not into cycling and I was never too into Lance Armstrong’s book. I read a couple of chapters though and heavily identified with his chemo experiences. It was oddly comforting to read in print what I’d experienced. There is no doubt the book had importance. Two separate concerned friends gave me a copy. Others […]

Artificial Happiness and the Power of No Choice

We have a tendency to overestimate the impact that events will have in our life. Ask anyone whether they would be happier winning millions or losing a leg and you get the expected answer. Yet, Dan Gilbert’s research shows the peaks and troughs of both happiness and sadness flatten out after around three months. If we win millions, a […]

Wait Three Months and Things will be Better

There is no doubt life can batter you. However, those blows are transitory. Dan Gilbert’s research shows that we recover from most things after about three months. Don’t take my words for it, have a listen to Gilbert, a Harvard professor, who studies the science of happiness. He explains it so much better. No matter […]

Fighting Cancer and Talking About It

Putting your feelings about life, cancer treatment and the dreadfully taboo topic of death out on the Web is awkward. Revealing your emotions for all to see feels like being naked in the town square during the mid-day rush. I didn’t ask for cancer and I’d happily have skipped the treatment. In fact, I often joke that cancer has […]

Being There for Each Other in Relationships

Around seven years ago my wife and I were out dancing and we met a woman who was an enthusiastic dancer. It is a special thing to see that spark in someone else. The ability to move to music and to let go and enjoy that movement is all too rare. Some people are great […]

Synthetic Happiness – Win Millions or Lose a Leg?

In this video, Harvard Professor Dan Gilbert explains synthetic happiness. This odd-sounding concept is about the happiness we manufacture when we don’t get what we want from life. Given the way ‘crap happens’, that is a darn handy thing to know. So, please take a moment to wrap your thinking gear around this concept. Synthetic […]

Old Soldiers Just Fade Away – Death of a Friend

A few months ago I was saddened by the death of a friend. I deeply admired him. He was one of the kindest men I’d ever met. We were neighbours for 12 years and grew close over that time. He’d drop over for a beer or a cup of tea or we’d have dinner at each […]

The Lose Lose Proposition – Fighting Cancer and its Reality

I hesitated for ages before I could put anything at all down about my experiences with the Big C. I was diagnosed around two years ago. I have a nasty version – Stage IV tongue cancer. The survival stats are not comforting reading. The tongue and throat are really grim places to have things go […]

Seems Bad News Really May Come in Threes

I’m not a superstitious person. I have never given much credence to the old adage that bad news travels as a trio. However, that is just what happened last week. In the space of four days I heard that three people I know had been diagnosed with cancer. Wow. The first news was sobering. The […]